THE LIST…

8.22.12

    It has been almost 2 years since I sat down and wrote out the infamous “30 before 30” list. I was at a point in my life where mentally, I had spent the previous 3 years tormented by questions of what if? why? and what did I do wrong? It had been a rough time, looking back now I see that it was a period of needless suffering on my part. I was slowly starting to come out of the fog and then, like a miracle I had this one really great night that put everything into perspective for me.

I was heading to The Tabernacle for a concert with my friend Hillary. She had just broken up with her boyfriend and was of course upset. As we talked about what had happened and how it was all making her feel, I suddenly had an epiphany. I was thinking about being heartbroken over guys and my own situation and it was like a little voice said just     tgras clear as day “if you had gotten what you wanted you wouldn’t be here right now!” That hit me like a ton of bricks because it was so true! I told Hillary that when it comes right down to it everything happens for a reason. If I had gotten what I wanted when I was 18 or 22 or 25, I wouldn’t be the person I am now. In the past 10 years I have changed so dramatically, my perspective and dreams are so much bigger than they were way back when. And if my path hadn’t twisted and turned exactly as it had I would not be who I am today, and for this I am truly thankful, no matter how bad it had hurt me in the past.

I had a few more epiphanies at the show… While watching David Cook rock the stage I thought to myself “Ok wow! This time last year, he was just a regular guy, and now all this.” Don’t get me wrong, I have no ambitions of becoming a rockstar, but it made me think. If I had an opportunity like that, would I have the courage to take it? Would I be able to leave my family and friends and all that was familiar to me and take a leap of faith to become who I was suppose to be. I suppose I was at a crossroads, I had been standing still for 3 years, and now I was ready to move!

I spent a lot of time thinking after that night about what I wanted to do, I’m still thinking about it everyday, and slowly it’s all working out, this I know for sure:) But from that night on I started to change. Over the course of that hellacious 3 years I had packed on about 30lbs, this was the first thing that had to go! I heard about the “The Race for Hope” 5k on twitter and I thought to myself, “I’m gonna do that!” I joined the gym, started to train, planned the trip with Mary-Alice and lost 20lbs in the process. I had always wanted to visit Washington, D.C. and this got me thinking about all the other things I had always wanted to do but had never gotten around to, so I sat myself down and made this list of 30 things I wanted to do before I turned 30. This list eventually became known as 30before30 when I auditioned for my OWN show for the Oprah Winfrey Network back in the summer of 2010. The show would follow me as I marked each item off of my list and also allow me to make viewers dreams come true by marking off their bucket list items. As i’m sure you know after watching the show I didn’t get picked. So I took the words of another person at the audition to heart, she said “Well if this doesn’t work i’ll just keep trying, I’m not giving up on my dreams!” I thought that was great, I didn’t even really know if this was my dream, but it was worth a shot to see. With those words in mind I thought, well, I still have the list, I still plan on doing all of those things, so why not blog about it? I’ve always loved writing and even if no one reads it but me, i’ll still have a creative outlet and a running record of all my shenanigans… For a while I have kept the list to myself, it was my list anyway, no one really needed to read it, but now I think it’s time to share. I thought it might help inspire people to sit down and make their own lists. One thing I know is this, life is way to short not to live it, every last second of it! I get caught up in the day to day of it all just like everyone and sometimes forget to enjoy it all. But I am working on this and I hope you all will too! Below you will find my “thirty30” list that inspired this blog, I would love to hear what is on your list so please share… and if there’s anything I can do to help make it happen just let me know:) Dim the lights… here we go…

 

-30 before 30-

* 1.) GET MY PASSPORT!

a.) use it!

 

 *2.) GO TO VEGAS!

*a.) 1/2 marathon

 

3.) LEARN TO SKI!

 

*4.) ZIPLINE!

*a.) some place exotic

 

5.) RIDE A MOTORCYCLE!

a.) w/ a hot guy!

b.) up the coast of California

 

6.) CROSS COUNTRY ROAD TRIP!

a.) in a convertible

 

*7.) BUY A HOUSE!

 

*8.) RUN A 5K!

 

 

9.) PUBLISH A BOOK!

 

10.) GO CAMPING!

a.) in a tent

b.) with my closest friends

 

 *10.) GO TO THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW!

a.) meet Oprah!

 

 *12.) HELP BUILD A HOME FOR SOMEONE IN NEED

 *a.) habitat for humanity

 

13.) VOLUNTEER MORE!

a.) as often & in as many places as possible

b.) do something bigger than myself!

 

14.) HAVE DINNER WITH DAVID COOK!

 

15.) LEARN TO PLAY PIANO AGAIN!

a.) play well!

 

*16.) GO ON A CRUISE!

 

17.) ESTABLISH A CAREER!

a.) figure out what i’m suppose to be doing in this crazy world!

 

18.) JOG IN CENTRAL PARK!

a.) NYC marathon

 

19.) NO COMMENT!

a.) you guys don’t need to know everything:)

 

20.) GET A TATTOO!

 

21.) WEAR A BIKINI!

a.) actually look & feel good in it!

 

 *22.) TAKE BALLROOM DANCING LESSONS!

 

23.) GO TO SOUTH AFRICA!

a.) volunteer with kids

b.) safari

 

24.) RIDE AN ELEPHANT

a.) i don’t know why, i’ve just always wanted too…

 

*25.) TAKE MOM & DAD ON A REALLY GREAT VACATION FOR THEIR 60TH BIRTHDAYS!

 

26.) GO TO THE OPERA!

 

27.) Go Fly Fishing!

 

28.) Go Sailing!

 

29.)

 

30.)

 

 

I left a few blank because I am always thinking of new things I want to add to the list… stay tuned for updates!

Now, what do you want to do? Go make that list!!!

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*Stars represent completion of that number only! Completed subcategories will get a star also, cause I still haven’t met Oprah!:) *